@ all my trans guys out there: once you start passing as a cis guy, you really need to be aware of how you act around women (esp woc if you are white, this prob doesn’t need an explanation). yesterday i was trying to make friends at college orientation but kept noticing how the majority of the women i was talking to seemed uncomfortable when i was overtly friendly up-front. of course i backed off when i saw this happen – but i was confused at first. but then it hit me!
trans guys, you probably lived life thinking you were a woman for at minimum 15 years of your life – think back to that time. remember how uncomfortable YOU were when a strange man, even someone your own age, just randomly started being really nice to you? yeah, same thing here except YOU’RE the guy. it doesn’t even matter if you’re gay or gnc, because to them you’re still a guy – and these women are justifiable in being wary.
and this is just in terms of being friendly towards women! there are so many things we need to take into account when we do start passing as cis guys, in regards to how we treat and respect women. YOU may not think of yourself as on the same level as a cis man in terms of misogyny or behavior, and you may not be – but everyone else doesn’t know that, even if they know you’re trans.
like, basically, the lesson i want all trans guys to take away from this post is that we DO have to be conscious of how we act around women and how we can help them feel safe and respected, especially when we start passing as cis. this helps the women around you feel more safe, it casually helps combat misogyny in your own inner circle (and maybe in your own internalized behaviors), and can even help set an example for the cis men around you! so yeah just be conscious of how you treat women. ✌️
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